Am I missing something? Why is he giving me that look? Did I forget something? What should I say now? Is it okay to politely excuse myself and leave? Will it come across as impolite? What if they perceive me as rude and never invite me to future gatherings? I should appear composed. How do I remain calm amidst so many unfamiliar faces? Can I approach someone for a conversation? But is it acceptable to interrupt their discussions? Oh dear! Attending this event feels like a regretful decision. I should have stayed home.
Does the above thought process seem familiar?
We are all guilty of overthinking at times. Overthinking is when one thinks too much about what could happen or spends a lot of time worrying about the future or reminiscing about the past. This includes - worrying too much about what others are thinking, exaggerating certain events, thoughts about the things that should have happened or about the things that never happen, etc.
“If I were to receive a dollar each time I engage in overthinking, I would undoubtedly possess immeasurable wealth, surpassing even the wealthiest individuals on this planet. “
Every Overthinker Ever
This cannot be healthy. There must be a solution, right?
Yes, there is. And you need to put in some effort to apply it in your life.
If you are ready to change your thinking patterns, here are a few things you can do when you catch yourself overthinking -
Be aware and accept
First, learn to be aware of your overthinking patterns. Catch yourself whenever you are overthinking. Acknowledge and accept that it is okay to have too many thoughts at a certain time. However, know that these thoughts should not hamper you from doing your daily activities.
Be mindful
Whenever you catch yourself overthinking, take a deep breath. To calm yourself down, take a few long, deep breaths. Be in the present moment. Be mindful. Notice your surroundings. Try a fun activity - Name 5 things you can see, 4 things you can hear, 3 things you can touch, 2 things you can smell and 1 thing that you can taste. This will help you focus your attention on the present moment.
Distract yourself
When you realise that your thoughts are becoming too overburdening for you, distract yourself. No! Not with your phone. Pause for a moment and introspect, pondering, "What can I do right now to maximize my productivity?" " Alternatively, consider asking, "What is one beneficial activity I can engage in to redirect my attention?" This empowers you to break free from overthinking and shift your focus towards positive endeavours.
Challenge distorted thoughts
When you start thinking negative or hurtful thoughts, try to look for evidence that justifies those thoughts. Chances are you won't find any. You will understand that you've been exaggerating. Understand that thoughts are just thoughts. It is not necessary that they portray reality. Most of our negative thoughts reflect the unnecessary worry about the future.
Think realistically about the probability of a particular event taking place. Engage yourself with this thought: "What outcome holds the highest plausibility in this scenario. By doing so, you can attain a clearer perspective, distinguishing between exaggeration and what is truly feasible.
These are some of the techniques that you can use to stop overthinking. I hope you find these effective for yourself. Share this blog with your friends as well!
In the comments section, tell us about what some of the techniques are that you use to stop overthinking.